How does the way someone dresses or wears their hair have an impact on your life? Genetic coinflips can have a profound influence on each of our lives, but we don’t freak out about eye color, webbed toes, or the presence — or absence of ear lobes.

Stop fixating on someones genitals — or anything else about their body — and worry about your own presentation, ‘cuz right now you’re looking pretty ugly.

Not convinced? Read “Beyond ‘He’ or ‘She’: The Changing Meaning of Gender and Sexuality” by Katy Steinmetz.